The Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training Course Description

• You don’t know how to love your children unconditionally because you were not taught how.
• Learning how to parent is the most important job in the world, and quite a journey. Let's get started.
• The most powerful and lasting experiences of life are during early childhood. That applies to you, too.
• Example of mother, Amanda, responding to two arguing children.
• You’re missing the root source of all childhood problems.
• You must interpret what children need from their behavior, not words—drowning metaphor.
• The moment we’re irritated, children hear only “I don’t love you”
• The “I don’t love you wound” causes all other problems, including Post-Childhood Stress Disorder
• You can learn to love and help your children.
• You can learn to make real choices instead of just reacting. 

• You have to find love before giving it, and we can’t love ourselves.
• You were TAUGHT who you are and how the world is, and often it was wrong.
• You were loved less when you didn’t behave in ways other people didn’t like.
• You MUST find love, and learn how to receive it and love others unconditionally: (1) Original unlovable message was wrong; (2) remember times you have felt loved; (3) remember a divine love; (4) I love you; (5) find love from others.
• Truth-seen-accepted-loved
• Where do you find love? (1) Usually not present friends; (2) rarely family; (3) never children; (4) from others.
• What are the usual reactions to truth telling? Confusion, argument, interest.
• Examples of telling the truth about yourself to other people.
• Many resources for finding love in RealLove.com and RealLoveParents.com
• Getting & Protecting Behaviors
• Example of stopping conflict with love
• Three Primary Responsibilities of a Parent
• Epigenetics

• It is unavoidable that your children suffer as you parent without Real Love.
• Your inability to parent with Real Love is NOT your fault.
• But it is your responsibility to change what you do now with what you learn.
• You can learn to understand the meaning of your children’s behavior, and as you see their pain, your impatience and anger transform into compassion.
• Lack of love leads to pain, which demonstrates as emptiness and fear, and then follow all the Getting and Protecting Behaviors, which combine to explain all your children’s behaviors.
• Children use Getting and Protecting Behaviors to find the Imitation Love that replaces Real Love. They MUST medicate their pain.
• Whining and anger show the relationship between pain, Getting and Protecting Behaviors, and Imitation Love.
• By finding Real Love, and changing the judgments in your life, you can eliminate the Getting and Protecting Behaviors that plague you and your children.

• All childhood problems are rooted in pain, and then they respond predictably.
• Cutting benefits: expresses pain physically, decreases confusion, distracts, feel alive, illusion power, attention, self-blame, anger, cry help
• Relation of cutting to Getting & Protecting Behaviors, the power of understanding.
• Lack of responsibility, withdrawal/depression (responsibility related to all 7).
• Addictions to screens: phones, video games
• No love ➝ Pain ➝ Decrease pain ➝ Addiction
• Addictions to alcohol, drugs, porn
• Adult children at home

• You promised yourself to make your children happy, and yet you get angry at them.
• Anger = “I don’t love you” and always hurts them.
• Every time you’re angry, you’re wrong, so You Will Never Express Anger at a Child.
• You get angry at your children because you expect them to love you, which they can’t.
• No one ever makes you angry. It’s a choice you make and one you can learn not to make.
• Five Ways to Respond to Anger
• Examples of lovingandteaching your children without anger.

• The reasons to tell the truth about yourself to your children.
• Example of The First Loving and Teaching, which begins to change everything.
• How to continue with loving and teaching after the First Truth Telling.
• How to change your judgments, which changes everything else.
• Examples of changing the lies you tell your children.

• Loving and teaching is your JOB. It gives children the power to choose love and happiness, not react pain.
• The primary goal of family is happiness, so all behaviors interfering with that must be eliminated.
• You must stop all wounding with NO tolerance for anger, whining, teasing, lying, withdrawal.
• Many examples of how to deal with wounding behaviors.
• Practical examples of how to loveandteach a child. How to really listen.
• Teaching children who they are, and how to choose the use of their gifts.
• The effects of praise and criticism, positive feedback vs praise.
• The use of consequences, bedtime.

• Screen addiction: its utter devastation, and how we can respond to it in children.
• Video games (same): harmful effects and how you can help your children.
• The Age of Entitlement: how it happened, effects on everything else, and treatment.
• ADHD. Over-diagnosis, characteristics are the same as response to pain; treatment without meds.
• How to love your children—what it looks like.
• Responsibility. Why your children lack it, and how to teach it.
• Addictions to alcohol, drugs, porn, early sex, and how to loveandteach children.

• The seduction of praise, and how it—and every other Imitation of love—fails us.
• Examples of loving, teaching, and consequences.
• How we give up on treating pain and just withdraw: depression, suicide, self-harming.
• Positive consequences
• Teaching your children how to be who they really are.
• Learning to judge yourself and your children differently.
• Joy

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