June 30, 2022

Confusion About a Parent’s JobThe single most common and serious obstacle I see for parents as they are learning how to love and teach their children is a confusion about what their job is. It’s really that simple—which is not to say that the job is easy. When we don’t have enough of the Real Love

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June 9, 2022

Difficult Start to No WhiningA mother wrote: “My son Kevin is two years old (29 months). I followed the principles of the Parenting Training, and I have to say that for the first couple of months things didn’t go very well. Sometimes when I would tell him that we don’t speak Whine, he would roll

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May 12, 2022

Positive Feedback—Telling a Child the TruthWhen we’re lost, we need help seeing where we are—feedback—and we can do that for our children, which means telling a child the truth about how they’re doing. It’s NOT praise. One afternoon Dad came into the room to find that Max was teasing his younger brother. Max had received a

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May 5, 2022

Making Many Mistakes as a ParentA parent talked to me about his efforts with his children. “I’ve learned so much from the Parenting Training, but the more I learn the more stupid I feel. I’m still making so many mistakes. I feel small and defective.”  “I love working outside,” I said. “I tend shrubs, trees, flowers,

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April 28, 2022

Teach Children to be Grateful for the Smallest Gifts From a mother:  Today I bicycled to the grocery store with my three-year-old, Edward. Outside the entrance sat a beggar with a paper cup. Edward approached him and said, “Hello, what are you doing?” He talked to the man without fear, lightly, openly, and happy. The man smiled

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