You Can Help Your Suicidal Child
Learn what you can do to ELIMINATE—not just manage—the suicide. Really.
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Do You Have a Child Who Is Suicidal?
In the video above I taught you:
- The REAL reason your child is suicidal (and it's not what you think).
- Why you just can't seem to help him or her be happy, no matter what you do.
- What you can do to ELIMINATE—not just manage—the possibility of suicide, almost always without medication. Really.
- How you can help your child replace unhappiness and a lack of desire to live with genuine peace and happiness.
Learn about Suicide—Briefly—
Before You Learn What You Can Do
- In the United States alone, someone dies by suicide once every 12 minutes.
- Suicide is the second-leading cause of death for youth and young adults between the ages of 10 and 34. (The leading cause is accidents, with car accidents most prominent. Since most car deaths are related to alcohol, even “accidents” could be considered a form of suicide. People who are happy with their lives do not drink, do not drive drunk, and don’t KILL THEMSELVES by driving drunk.)
- The suicide rates for U.S. youth are the highest in recorded history. During the short period of 2007-2015, one state’s youth suicide rate increased by 300%. Anything negative that increases at that rate is considered a dangerous epidemic. What if the flu or lung cancer were increasing by that rate?
We talk loudly and angrily among ourselves and in the media about the evils of gun deaths—about 40,000 per year now—but NOBODY is talking about the fact that out of every ten gun-related deaths in the U.S., SIX are suicides.
Yes, we need to address what to do about murder and guns, but the bigger issue is the emotional pain that motivates people to murder other people, and, more importantly—statistically speaking—to commit SUICIDE.
Do You Have a Child at Risk for Suicide?
Look for the Signs
Very few children or teenagers clearly announce their suicide beforehand. But they DO show many signs of profound unhappiness that could provide us with the clues we need to PREVENT the suicide that is the final act of an unhappy life.
You need to ask yourself—with considerable honesty—whether you’re seeing any of the following:
Does your child simply appear to be “down?” It is a curious that so many suicide experts and websites talk about the fact that not all suicidal youth are depressed, but the whole truth is that not all suicidal youth are diagnosed with clinical depression by a health care professional. Most depression, however, is NOT diagnosed. Suicidal kids ARE depressed. NOBODY kills themselves while they’re happy. ALL suicides are profoundly unhappy—another term for DEPRESSED emotionally, whether it’s professionally diagnosed or not. So if your child has been “down” for longer than two weeks, you need to begin asking some question—some of which are found below.
Are you seeing CHANGES in usual habits: personality, overall energy, appetite, sleep? If something is changing significantly, there is almost always an identifiable cause, and we respond to emotional pain more obediently than to almost anything else.
Unexplained physical ailments
Emotional pain—sometimes called stress—is increasingly thought to be the primary cause of some 70% of physical symptoms and illnesses. And stress worsens the symptoms of nearly every disorder.
Expressions about futility or death
Some children may say things like: “Oh, what difference does it make anyway,” which often is a way of saying “Life isn’t worth living.” “I just wish I were dead.” “I don’t think I can do this much longer.”
Are they giving away their belongings? This means that they’re cutting off their ties with the world around them, sometimes in preparation for leaving the world.
Are they neglecting their personal appearance?
Do they tend to withdraw from family and other activities? Do they tend to isolate? Many parents are actually relieved by the relative disappearance of a child, especially if conflict had previously been common.
Is he or she irritable, grouchy, angry? Suicide is a response to unbearable emotional pain—period—the cause of which we’ll be addressing shortly. And children respond to their pain with anger as often as they do with withdrawal or depression.
When a child experiences enough pain, the risk of disease or death from behaving recklessly—sexual promiscuity, driving fast, and more—might seem welcome.
Are they preoccupied with death in conversation, writing, or drawing?
Is it difficult to get their full attention when you speak to them?
Have you directly asked your child, “How are you doing with your life overall? Do you like being alive?’ The answer is most often seen in their facial expression and heard in their tone of voice. If you see any hesitation in answering this question, ask the next one: “Have you ever thought about killing yourself?”
As you discover some of these signs in your child, the possibility increases that your child might be suicidal.
That’s pretty scary stuff for a parent, and you don’t know what to do about it. And they’re difficult to be around and hard to reach. It’s like your child is slowly disappearing into an empty world.
You’re worried. What would you give to have a happy child back?
There IS a Solution—
How to Help a Child Who is Suicidal
I’m here to tell you that there IS a solution, and we’re not talking about controlling or minimizing the symptoms of unhappiness. That’s not nearly enough.
We’re talking about a real transformation where your child becomes truly happy, fulfilled, responsible, and, well, a human being again—almost always without the use of medications, which have a long list of their own problems. In most cases, what you get is a child much happier than they were before they began to change their behavior.
Welcome to the answers you've been hoping for.
For a long time now, you’ve been looking for ways to help your child. I greatly admire what you’re doing right now. You’re looking for answers — you’re trying to love and help your child — which is way more than most parents do.
And finally, you’re in the right place.
You've Been Desperately Looking for Help with Your Child
It’s like you’ve been paddling around in the middle of the ocean, desperately looking for help, and now—almost unbelievably—it’s here. This is the ship you’ve been looking for.
How could I possibly make such an extravagant promise? Because I KNOW how to teach parents how to help their children find the love and sense of worth that make life worth living. What I teach has been used by uncounted THOUSANDS of parents, and it works CONSISTENTLY.
I’m not trying to sell you something here that we’re GOING to do. You don’t have to wait. The training begins right now. In the next few seconds, I’ll be teaching you things about your children and yourselves that you’ve never known.
I repeat: I’m not here to tell you ABOUT what I’m offering you. I’m beginning now to GIVE you what you need. It’s my gift to you, whether you continue with me or not.
What a relief to know that right now you’re exactly where you’ve wanted to be. You can learn what you need to learn. Finally, you can feel encouraged. You can feel hope. You can help your child.
And I’m going to help you do that.
Your Child is Suicidal—or Possibly Suicidal—
and You Want to Do something About It
I know you’ve tried to make a difference: lots of talking, worrying, reading books, programs, maybe counseling, possibly medication. But your child is still visibly miserable and gives no indication of any great desire to live.
And you’re frustrated and tired.
You’ve been looking for something that works, and here it is: principles that have proven to work hundreds of thousands of times all over the world.
You would not be here unless two things were true:
If parents are thoroughly committed to learning and practicing what I’m going to share with you, predictably I see children really want to live. I see them become truly happy and productive—even after everything else has failed.
You become happy too.
It is NOT hopeless.
I’m here to help you, and I’ll be using the insight and experience of counseling with thousands of parents, and from writing 20 books and endless articles on the subject, as well as appearing on 1600 radio and television shows and presenting seminars all around the world—and much more.
You are about to change the world around you, and you don’t have to do it alone, which is miserable and frustrating. You’ve already proven that with your own experience.
What You Will Learn That You Don’t Already Know
So now the question that has to be on your mind: what am I going to teach you about your child’s behavior and about suicide that you don’t already know?
What am I going to say that you haven’t already read or heard somewhere?
This is going to be revolutionary for you to hear, so slow down your brain and listen with your soul: What does a child NEED more than anything else? After food, water, and air, the answer is SO obvious, and yet we keep missing it—over and over.
To see the answer, let’s start with an infant. When an infant cries—other than from obvious physical pain—what does he want? You already know, because you just pick him up. You’re pretty smart. You already know that every child wants to feel cared for. Every child wants to feel LOVED.
Picking them up and holding them is just a demonstration of that. And if you’re genuine in caring about them, they FEEL it.
But infants are relatively easy to love. They smile and melt your heart, make cute little noises, and laugh in ways we never hear anywhere else. They’re adorable.
But when they get older, they learn to spill things, make messes, ferociously say NO when you tell them what to do, scream in their car seat, fight with their siblings, refuse to listen to you, say ugly and hateful things to you and other people . . .
and sometimes just give up on life and want to die. They get a LOT harder to love, and when that happens, we really don’t know what to do. Usually we try to control their behavior—and we might even temporarily succeed—but it doesn’t last, and we end up with kids who are still anxious and unhappy.
We’re not so happy either.
Loving Your Children Unconditionally
Let me say this another way:
If our children become more difficult to love as their behavior changes, that proves we don’t know how to love them UNCONDITIONALLY.
If we love them unconditionally, we’d love them no matter what.
But if loving them becomes more difficult when they refuse to eat or make themselves vomit, for example, and keep using harmful behaviors—our love is conditional.
Unconditional love or Real Love means caring about another person without wanting anything from then in return, but we DO expect something in return for the “love” we give our children: respect, cooperation, gratitude, and a certain level of reasonable and relatively easy behavior, which does not include anorexia, bulimia, or other related problems.
The Real Effect of Anger and Disappointment
Now more about unconditional love: That kind of love would mean that our love would not be affected by what they do. That’s what unconditional love means.
But we really don’t know how to do that. How do I know? We PROVE it every time we become angry, or disappointed, or impatient, or irritated at them. Our anger and disappointment and frustration are undeniable PROOF that our love is not unconditional.
Deep inside, you know that what I’m saying is true, but let me demonstrate further: When other people are angry at YOU, do YOU like it? NO, you don’t. Not ever. Nobody does. When other people are angry at us, or when we’re angry at other people, we’re all saying, “Look at what you did to ME, or failed to do FOR ME.”
In anger, we’re focused on OURSELVES—Me-Me-Me—and in that moment other people—notably our children—hear only four words, “I don’t love you.” When we’re angry, we’re far too occupied with ourselves to unconditionally love another person.
When we are angry at another person, including our child, they hear only, "I don't love you."
I promise you that this is true.
No, we don’t MEAN to say that, but what else COULD people hear while our words, tone, and behavior are screaming ME-ME-ME? “I don’t love you” is what YOU hear and FEEL when people are angry at you—think about it honestly—and it’s what our children hear and feel when we’re angry at them. And then we have an anxious child or anxious teenager.
It’s little wonder that they respond with their own anger.
Again, we do NOT mean to do this. We do not mean to hurt our children.
But it was inevitable, because WE were not loved unconditionally—which means being consistently loved without disappointment or anger. We were not loved freely, without conditions—so how could we possibly have learned how to unconditionally love our own children? IMPOSSIBLE.
Nobody is to blame. Our ignorance of Real Love simply perpetuated over generations. We don’t know how to love unconditionally because we’ve never seen it or felt it with any consistency.
Childhood and Teenage Suicide are Reactions to Not Being Loved Unconditionally
For emphasis, I’m going to say all this in a slightly different way:
When children behave badly—when they’re suicidal, for example—it is almost always a reaction to them not feeling loved unconditionally. They do not feel loved with no disappointment, irritation, frustration, or anger.
This could sound discouraging, even bleak. In some ways it IS bleak. Look at the world—at the utter obsession with things that are distractions from our pain, from our not feeling loved: like endless entertainment, addiction to electronics, anger, controlling people, drugs, alcohol, sex, and on and on.
THERE is the proof—in our addiction to all those behaviors—that overall we do not know how to love people unconditionally. If we did, and I speak here with vast experience, these behaviors would not exist.
Children and Teenagers Who are Loved Unconditionally Don't Feel Depressed
I’ve been teaching unconditional love now for so many years to so many parents that I can tell you this with complete certainty: When a child truly feels loved unconditionally, he or she NEVER wants to be dead.
Instead they’re HAPPY—and responsible, and have all those qualities you wish they had.
With sufficient love, there is simply no NEED to to be miserable and then act out or otherwise behave badly—like threatening suicide. Happy people don’t do that. Period. Full stop. It seems almost like this statement is too broad, too much. It’s not.
It seems almost like this statement is too broad, too much. It’s not.
Why You're Not succeeding in Helping Your Children with their Depression
How many times have you wondered why a child isn’t hearing what you’re saying? There’s an answer, and here it is: Because when you’re irritated, your child hears only “I don’t love you,” and that is so devastating, that he or she hears none of the rest of the content of what you say.
So THAT is what I'll be teaching you:
How to LOVE your children unconditionally,
which then gives them a REASON to LISTEN to you.
If you love them unconditionally, they can HEAR you —what you’re really saying—because they’re not distracted by their fear, not blinded and deafened by the “I don’t love you” message. Then it becomes possible for you to teach them anything—like how to be loving and responsible themselves.
And if they have that powerful trifecta—they feel loved, and they are loving and responsible—they are guaranteed to be happy, which is the ultimate goal for any parent, or, frankly, any person.
Your Children Can Learn to Be Happy
Your children can learn that being happy is a great way of living, and then thoughts of death just disappear.
Take my hand, and we’ll talk about what you can do—and how I will support you. It will almost be like starting over in parenting. You’re going to LEARN how to be a real parent, and your child will learn the lessons of life that will benefit him or her for the rest of their lives.
If you implement what you learn here, and if you do it consistently, you simply will not believe the differences you’ll see in your child, and in you, and in your family.
no more sulking,
no more withdrawing,
no more depression,
no more talk of death,
no more tension in the family,
It’s astonishing to see and to feel.
Our children are not bad. We’re not bad.
We just have not known how to love and teach them.
Loving and Teaching Eliminates Suicidal Feelings in Children
What we’re doing with our kids to help them want to live—to be happy—IS NOT WORKING.
Loving and teaching them does.
Rarely is it too late to change whatever unproductive behaviors you’re dealing with, not if you’re really willing to learn and to apply these principles to the interactions with your child. I can promise you, learning how to be a parent is WORTH IT.
You’re about to learn how to ELIMINATE the anxiety, stress and other conditions in your children that are hurting them and making you crazy. Really.
I make you another promise:
Learning to be a loving, effective parent is EASIER than everything else you’ve done as a parent.
Transforming, Not Managing Your Children
We’re really going to get into this. This is not a casual effort. We’re not looking to make your children more manageable. That’s not even close to being enough.
Our mission is to help you to become a powerful and effective parent, and to help your child feel loved, and to be loving, responsible, and genuinely happy. It’s a transformation.
If you ARE truly committed to learning how to parent, I’M fully committed to teach you, and I will bring resources to the table you never thought about. The rewards are spectacular—as we have seen in uncounted thousands of families.
There is not a single thing you’ll ever do that will ring through the ages more powerfully than being a loving and effective parent.
You can do this, so let's get started.
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