Customer Stories

portrait of Luke Kandia

Like a lighthouse in a raging storm...

I have read a lot of books, listened to a lot of people and gone through a ton of trial and error experiences in my life, as I have tried to gain knowledge and wisdom. But in the case of my son, I was lucky enough to realize and admit to myself, that I did not have enough experience or knowledge to overcome my latest challenge. Our family was having a crisis at home. If I didn't do something quickly, we risked losing our son. Literally. There was no room or time for trial and error when it came to our little boy (6'4", 250lbs).


So I turned to the Internet. And like a lighthouse in a raging storm, Greg's Real Love Parenting website came shining through the whipping rain and turbulent seas. I signed up to watch his free videos and within what seemed like mere minutes, I had a personal email from him. He radiated warmth, love, and caring in a way that I've never felt through a simple digital interaction with anyone else in so short a time span.


The Parenting Training Video course, was the best use of money I’ve ever made in six decades. Greg's words and his own experience with his own children and that of hundreds of other children gave legitimacy to what we were experiencing with our own son. So we tried everything exactly as he suggested. And it worked. There was something missing in our lives. Greg showed us what it was. And we will forever be grateful...


Our son is growing and thriving. We thank the stars that Greg came into our lives.

Lucas Kandia // Canada

Portrait of Dr. Liz Hale

This is information that every parent needs now...

I have been a psychologist for 20 years, and in that time I have watched parenting become a rapidly increasing challenge for parents. Especially with the explosion of the Internet and electronic devices, children are bombarded all day with messages that their parents are not aware of. But parents still have to raise children to be happy and responsible in a world that is powerfully distracting them from that path.


What can we do? I can’t recommend highly enough the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training by Greg Baer. You’ll begin with 45 hours of video training, followed by the most extensive follow-up I’ve ever seen. Your children are worth it. They need you to be on top of loving them and teaching them the essentials of a happy life. This is information that every parent needs—right now.

Liz Hale, PhD  //  Wenatchee, WA

You've cracked the code of human behavior...

"You have cracked the code of human behavior. Even better, you’ve explained the laws that govern human happiness. Right from the beginning it is so different from any other parenting program I have come across. The videos are rich and pull me in. It's hard to describe in words. Hopeful. Full of substance. Realistic. Practical. Kind. Finally I can help my kids. I am so relieved and happy not to be wandering around in the dark anymore. Thanks for helping me and our family."

Katja C.  //  Fair Oaks, CA

Mariko and son

GO FOR IT!

The Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training has saved me from depression and healed many of my wounds I have carried since childhood. This is not just some method or program to manipulate children to change their behavior. It starts off from ME, the parent being liberated from my own emotional pain so that I can become capable of loving and teaching my children.


Parenting can be an extremely lonely journey. I now have hope and am developing confidence as a parent through the understanding, acceptance and love Greg has given me through this Parenting Training. If you are willing to change yourself for you and your children, GO FOR IT!

Mariko I.  //  Japan

Elizabeth Messinger

You won't be doing this alone...

My son, Michael, is now 19, sensitive, loving, upbeat, full of initiative, and strongly guided by an inner integrity. But several years ago, he was just another typically troubled and angry teenager. Divorced and desperately searching for tools to help him, I tripped over the Real Love Parenting website and was stunned to discover how ill-equipped I was to be a parent. I didn’t even know what genuine love was, so I couldn’t have given it to Michael. Greg SHOWED me what parenting with love really is, and I could FEEL it and pass it on to my son. Changing old habits is hard work, but the alternative is continuing with the pain of a child who doesn’t feel loved.

I encourage every parent to buckle in and prepare for an exciting and sometimes bumpy ride! You won’t be doing this alone, and you will find the bedrock you’ll need to stay calm in the stormiest circumstances. Welcome to the unparalleled peace, strength and joy of Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training.

Elizabeth M.  //  Bedford, NY

David Edmondson

This is life changing stuff...

Not so long ago, I was full of anger, so I would criticize, lecture, nag, argue with, and try to control my 13-year-old son. It was awful. I felt bad about myself. He felt bad, and we just were not close.


Then I took Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training Course, and now the anger has gone, with me feeling more peaceful and loved. After learning to love and teach, and learning some simple principles, I can now talk to my son. And he listens. We have so much more fun together, and we are more connected. We talk all the time.


I still make mistakes, but when I do, I just admit that I was stupid or selfish, and we’re right back to being connected. It's wonderful to see my son being happier, more confident, and better able to make friends.

This is life changing stuff.

David E.  //  Bradford, UK

I feel equipped with effective tools...

I feel equipped with effective tools to love my children and help them achieve their potential. And my marriage is blossoming as I learn the power of freely giving.

Autumn T.  //  Lehi, UT

Sari Terrusa

A powerful resource for transforming family dynamics...

For more than 30 years I have worked with children, families and couples as a psychotherapist and co-founder of the Transformational Studies Institute in Jupiter, Florida. I have found Dr. Greg Baer’s “Real Love in Parenting” principles to be a powerful resource for transforming family dynamics. I have seen how teaching parents to love their children unconditionally, and properly use praise, natural consequences and family meetings creates deeper family bonds and a safe, nurturing family environment. I strongly recommend Dr. Baer’s Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training to help children and families thrive!

Sari Terrusa, LMHC //  Jupiter, FL

silhouette of young teen girl

Mom is giving us a shot at happiness...

(14 y.o. girl whose behavior was increasingly unacceptable in many ways:)

“Over the past few months my mother has been doing this Parenting Training, and she started a new family rule: ‘If you want to be happy, you have to feel loved, be loving, and be responsible.’ I wasn’t sure about this at first, but this has turned out to be a great rule, and it seems like every family should have it. It does take a lot of dedication and hard work to make it happen. Each of us kids has had to really change our attitude and behavior.


“Mom is firm but not mean. Today I made some ridiculous excuse for not doing something I was supposed to, and she just burst into laughter. Then I started laughing too, because my excuse was pretty stupid. With these new rules, we feel closer to each other. And there’s almost no more anger, or whining, or teasing, like there used to be.


“Sometimes I think Mom is being strict, but the truth is that she’s giving us a shot at happiness, and I’m grateful to her for doing so much work to help us.”

14 Year-old girl  //  USA

Silhouette of 15 year old girl

I like my life now. I want to get up in the morning...

(17 year-old. who used to be angry, moody, defiant, and as difficult as she could be.)

At a family meeting recently she said this to her younger siblings:

"I want to ask you guys something. Do you remember how bad I used to be? I used to bump into you guys, not even say sorry, curse you out—I was so angry all the time. Everybody hated being around me like that, but I have changed a lot inside, and I’m still working on it.


“The hardest thing was that I used to think Mama wanted to change me into this cooperative little robot, and I hated that. But then I began to see that she was actually caring about me, and helping me see what I was doing that was hurting me. And she was RIGHT about my attitude and behaviors. They were not good for me. It is so hard to hear these things about yourself, but as you learn to accept it bit by bit, you can shed the stuff that does not work, but you’re not changing who you really are. So, if Mama tells you something about yourself, she is trying to help you. She sees you and cares about you, so listen, and the sooner you do, the easier it is.


"I like my life now. I want to get up in the morning. I like being loving and responsible.”

17 year-old girl //  USA

Brent Greenhalgh portrait

The moment I began...

...the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training my parenting began to improve! I didn't realize that my frustration was more due to MY confusion, than it was about my kids' disturbing behaviors, but it was. With Greg's help — both in the "course" and in the "support resources" — my confusion evaporated and I quickly became a confident and loving Dad. I'm finally becoming the dad I envisioned before we had children. Now my wife and I are having deep and meaningful conversations with our children about their anger, frustrations, entitlement, responsibilities, arguing with each other and us, school, future careers, and more. We can hardly believe how effective we're becoming. All our kids are becoming more responsible, cooperative, and calm. The old frustrations and tension are melting away.

Brent Greenhalgh  //  Dallas, TX

Seeing great changes...

I'm just an hour into Chapter 3 and 8 weeks into changing how my family functions. I'm seeing great results already with less anxiety and less stress and anger between family members. We are doing other things to better understand our very different personalities. So happy to see the progress, more love and respect all around.

Linda Petelka // Ontario, CA

Smiling mom and son.

This is so exciting!

I'm THRILLED with what I've learned from the REPT. Greg nailed it when he taught that whining is the gateway behavior for all bad behaviors. Whoa. I tested it, and it's true. My children still whine from time to time, but it is a lot less than before and also it stops much faster. Sometimes I just have to point it out to my son and ask if whining works. He says "no", then stops and finds a solution. Never thought it would be this easy to LoveandTeach my kids (and me, HA!) This is so exciting.

Sydney M. // Bellevue, WA

I tried everything...

I am one of those people who has tried everything written or filmed on parenting, but none of it worked. I was simply not reaching my children, and it was hurting them and me.


But the Real Love Parenting Training has changed the way I see my children and my parenting. I realized that I was trying to cook with sparks, without knowing how to light a fire. You can’t cook a chicken with sparks. Now I’m learning how to light the fire within myself and them, so I’m feeling the joy of parenting.

 

I used to agonize over when to be strict and when to give in. But now I know that’s it’s not about any of that. Now I can love and teach them when things get difficult, instead of getting irritated as I correct mistakes. What a difference. This Training has taught me in ways I never imagined, and I feel transformed and grateful. It is the hope I have been searching for my entire life.

Lacey G. // Manchester, UK

African american woman

Now I understand how to help my kids...

OMG! Greg’s Parenting Training and personal support have made it possible for me to FINALLY understand two critical things:

1.     How often my whole family, me included, whined, complained, was angry or afraid.

2.     How to eliminate it.

The more loved they feel (and I feel), and the more loving choices they know, the less I'm seeing of these behaviors. I can’t thank you enough for creating this program.


No question about the changes in our family. Old, unproductive behaviors still crop up, but now I understand how to help my kids (and myself) recognize them and why they don't work. The more loved they (and I) feel, and the more loving choices they know, the less I'm seeing of these behaviors.

Sylvia  S. //  Columbus, OH

Man outside, smiling.

We are happier...

As I feel more loved, and act in faith, I’m getting more confident, so now I'm able to love and teach my children how to not whine, complain, where anger comes from, fear (what I taught them), and addictive behaviors. We are still working on all of them, BUT we are all happier and I  know the best is yet to come.

Mark H. // Minneapolis, MN

silhouette of young teen girl

I am a completely different person...

I completed the REPT myself after seeing and feeling what it did for my relationship with my mother. 


I am a completely different person now that I've learned how to really live. I finally feel free, and although there's still so much to learn, I have a firm foundation to continue growing from. I have become more aware of my getting and protecting behaviors, and the more I see myself, the more I'm able to change for the better, because I'm not as afraid of making mistakes. Because of this I've become a much kinder and more confident person, and know how to learn from my mistakes instead of feeling bad about them.


I never imagined that I would like being around my mother as much as I have lately. She has been teaching me some things about relationships that I didn’t know. Sometimes I resist, because I don’t like seeing those things about myself, but she keeps loving and teaching me. At one point I was confused about how I was feeling, and she described my feelings so exactly that I began laughing hysterically. My laughter made no sense, but I guess it was because I was so happy!


Overall it was just such a sweet conversation. She was just so loving and understanding that I couldn't help but really listen to her and take in what she was saying.

15 year-old girl // USA


Anna Lee family

I feel more confident...

My confidence and effectiveness as a parent have increased. I notice how I enjoy myself a lot more with the children and do not express my anger at them as I did before. I prefer now to take care of them by myself instead of asking for help.


As an individual, knowing that I have choices, and that I am loved is helping me be happier and less to have negative emotions (or at least it takes less time to get out of it.)

I'm still working on being a better parent and being a better partner, but I feel more confident that I can love and teach my children better.

Anna L. // Singapore

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Your advice is the best advice I ever got...

Your advice is the best advice I ever got from anyone. I have followed you for several years and read many of your books. Just finished the Real Love for Parenting, excellent advice. I wish I would have known this when my children were small, did a lot of mistakes that I try to restore now. But now I am wiser for my grandchildren. Thank you for your work.

Liisa Freystaetter // Miami, FL


Nicole and Jared Recksiek

You took me by the hand...

Last night I taught our son Aaron that whining is trying to control other people, and that now he can choose a more grown-up way to "ask" for what he wants. Then my husband Jared knelt down and taught him about the beauty and gift it is to be able to trust in ways that make us happy. Aaron asked “Really?” And daddy said, “Yeah, really.” They embraced and held each other. 


At this point, Aaron's wheels were turning. He bravely 'asked' me (without whining) if we could snuggle, which we did. He was trying so hard to receive the love he needed before we left him with a babysitter. And then he said “Okay” and CHOSE to be okay. He did not fuss as we waved goodbye to him as he was standing on the porch smiling. 


When we came home, we learned that everything went beautifully with the sitter.  

 

It’s hard to describe the feelings that enter my heart as these truths speak to my soul. And to see my boy get it, trust it, choose it. I’m enveloped. 


You took me by the hand and now Jared and I are taking our family by the hand. 

Nicole & Jared R. // Utah

Liz Hale Clinical psychologist

 

I'm so happy 'cuz  it's working...

The following statement that came in from one of my clients tonight whose husband downloaded and is either reading or listening to "Real Love in Parenting.": 

Her little 6-year-old daughter ran up to her and said, "Mommy, Daddy is listening to a 'song' on his computer about being a better Daddy.....and I'm so happy 'cuz  it's working!"

Roger W australia

 Our teenage girl is almost unrecognizable...

My marriage was almost over, and our kids were acting out more and more. But then I talked to Greg, and we decided to really dive in and do it. We did everything Greg said to do. Everything. And now our marriage is stronger, and our teenage girl is almost unrecognizable. She’s happy and cooperative and kind to her brother. It’s like a miracle.

So thanks Greg, for your time and for all the information we found on the website.

Rachel L NY

The kids even follow instructions...

My kids used to be IMPOSSIBLE. Temper tantrums, fighting with each other, not listening. I was ready to give them up for adoption. And my husband was ready to walk out of the whole mess, to get away from both me and the kids. Then we went to a Real Love seminar, and now the fighting is over. I’m not kidding. The kids like each other, and my husband and I like being together. The kids even follow instructions—like go to bed on time, which never happened before. We have a family again. Actually, we have a family for the first time. Wow, big thanks.

Kathryn B UK

Real Love really does work miracles...

My oldest daughter was 16 when I first stumbled across Real Love. As with every other thing I had ever started learning and thought I knew best about, I shoved it down her throat. Understandably she didn't like that and became pretty resistant. I kept learning and kept telling the truth about myself and kept loving her the best I could.

At times I was so conscious of the gap between what I could see she needed and what I knew I could offer her that it near broke my heart. I was frequently tortured seeing how much I wanted to love her in the way she needed and yet knowing I was just too emotionally immature myself to do so. I wept in many people's arms over this and am grateful for their patiently loving me through my own pain.

I did my best before my daughter left home. Was my best good enough? It doesn't matter. It was the best I had. There were — and are still — others who would willingly step in and give my daughter what she needed directly. What a gift to know this.

She's 20 years old now and coming up to the end of her second year at university. She calls me very frequently; at the moment it's almost every day. Last night she called and said she was calling to "refuel" as so many people around her are in pain and she's been helping them as much as she could. She said she needed to "top up" herself.

If you'd have asked me a few years or even months ago whether my oldest daughter and I could have had this kind of relationship I would have said no way. Real Love really does work miracles.

Chella UK

The result was instant...

I watched your video clip of Real Love for parenting , and within the first 40 seconds I recognized that this was exactly my life... this was my daughter.

I downloaded the book and read it and the very next day (today) I put it into practice . The result was instant. 

Today, for the first time I loved my daughter unconditionally and what I received back was beyond my expectations. 

Today I may have just saved my daughter’s life. From anger to self harm then on to suicide threats to actual attempts, today I saw something in her I hadn’t seen before. Acceptance....acceptance to believe I loved her no matter what. No resistance and no anger. 

My journey I know is long, but today I took my very first step.

Lizet Solomon USA

What a powerful message...

Wow - what a powerful message I got from your book "Stress Free Parenting". I was at my lowest point not knowing why my 3-year-old girl behaves so badly and rebellious. Reading this opened my eyes as to what the problem is and how to fix it and it all makes so much sense now. I wish I had known this sooner but will definitely recommend this for any person, especially if you have kids. What a Blessing this been to me!!

I am so excited because I got to treat the real problem not only the symptom. Tried it already yesterday and what a difference in my mood towards my kids already.  I am so grateful for the amazing truth that will set my situation FREE.

Isabel Walker UK

Filled me with extra courage, strength & faith...

I must say that I can also feel the emotional freedom/stability that comes with stepping up in my parenting. Not giving in to fear.

I know that listening to your parenting training filled me with extra courage, strength and faith that I've been able to draw on. I now have a testimony of its power!!

Magical Lad UK

I feel so free...

For all my childhood and adult life, there was tension between my parents and me. But then I learned the principles found in the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training, and wow! to my surprise, they worked. I feel so free, and I have a fun relationship with my parents that I never imagined possible.

Sandy F North Carolina

Thank you for saving my family...

This book was lent to me back in 2009. Changed the course of my life, for the happier. Quote from my 12 year old "thank you for saving my family".

We continue to learn better how to raise happy and responsible children with the Real Love website.

Catherine m. WA

Real Love has changed our lives...

Real Love changed not only my life, but the lives of both my children. I love being a part of this community!

alex fmexico

Thanks to Real Love we are closer than ever...

Real Love has affected my life in so many ways. My eldest son moved halfway across the country and refused my calls. With Greg's advice I left simple voice messages. I told him jokes. I wrote him newsy letters telling him how life was going at home. At one point C. told me not to communicate with him and that he would initiate further contact. I respectfully disagreed telling him that he was my son, I would always love him and he could always rip up my letters without reading them. It took time, but thanks to Real Love we are closer than ever. He has a RL coach and is happier than I've ever seen him. Thank you Real Love, thank you Greg.

The Ed and Ruth Shaw Show|Talk America, nationally syndicated

Every parent needs to hear what he has to say....

“Greg Baer is the most unconditionally loving man on the face of the planet. Every parent needs to hear what he has to say.”

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