The Need for Pruning
Not long ago I began the task of pruning trees and bushes in the front yard, and because I usually devote my efforts to the backyard, I encountered some surprises. For one, there were more species growing than I had remembered.
And of course they had all grown at different rates, so some bushes had grown in ways that obscured other desirable plants from view. Some bushes even draped their branches and leaves over the top of other bushes such that they were suffering from the lack of sunshine.
Vigorously I began my cutting, eventually hauling away trailer loads of branches to the burn pile. I suppose my efforts could have seemed harsh toward any individual bush, snipping away branches by the dozen, but in the end every plant looked more distinctive.
Each bush and tree contributed more fully to the beauty of the garden, and in the process the health of none was injured. The front yard is significantly more attractive as a result of removing the excess growth. Oh, and the plants are happier—they told me so.
Parents Pruning Children
As parents it is our responsibility to prune the garden of our children. It is not our job to change who they are, but with wisdom, experience, and inspiration we can identify attitudes and behaviors that detract from their unique and productive qualities.
We can help them prune away any growth that deviates from their feeling loved, and from being loving and responsible. What’s left is their best selves. Without pain and fear, our children grow and flower in ways we can hardly imagine until we see the results.
Don’t be afraid to prune the excess, or to pull the weeds. Diligence is required, and sometimes there will be resistance and thorns warning you away. Stay with it, and both you and your children will be delighted that you did.
